Monday, June 13, 2011

The mommy Myths..

For those of you who stay home or have stayed home at one point in time you will recognize the mommy myths.  

 First, the look when you tell some one you stay home... The ahh you don't work look...  You feel the need to bring up every past job you have ever had and how soon you will be back to work.

2. That you have nothing to do all day. That somehow you raise kids from your couch and never do but "maybe" fold some laundry. 

3. That you have no hope of regaining a career and you are just wasting your time to watch a soap show.

4. You must have lost your mind and you figured it would be more sane to stay home

5. After you lost your mind I am positive that you suddenly become stupid. 

6. That you are not professional anymore.

7. I believe that these people think their children never talk or scream or wreck anything all day while they are at work. 

 8. I must have all the time in the world to get to the gym or to the grocery store.

Okay this is all I can think of right at this moment but let me tell you go fuck off politely. My life is more cramped for time now than ever. Between starting a new company, becoming a full time gardener, cook, laundry, friend-herder and what ever else in between. Seriously though, I never thought I would feel more belittled and never thought I would be this overwhelmed. I have more to do in a day then I have ever had and I don't believe that that load is going to get any lighter anytime soon.

I am gaining back my freshman fifteen some how... Some one help me... YUCK.  I feel bloated  and my pants are fitting a little tight. I am not taking the fat pants out... So, no booze this week and NO snacking, more water, and less carbs. I hate busting out the old diet plan but, gotta do what ya gotta do. 

Cancer is going well enough. I am taking a little break from rad but,  we will be up and going again soon. The results come back from my PET scan and they didn't look bad but, they weren't awesome either. I am still seeing some new growth but, the tumors we are hitting seem to be responding. 



  1. Anxious for more updates on the tumors...

    Thank you for this post. I became a SAHM in 2007 and I swear I have never been so belittled by those around me. It does get easier with time, I am getting better at realizing that I don't need to justify what I do to others as a SAHM. I wish I had the guts to tell them all to fuck off.


    So excited for your biz to be back up and running.

  2. I was a SAHM, too. I always felt defensive and sometimes even almost ashamed about it. Like if I met new people and they say, "so, what do YOU do?" I'd always kind of blush and stammer, "uh, nothing." But with all the moving around we did, something in the kids' lives needed to be stable, and I was that thing.

    Now looking back, I think it's the best thing I ever did with my life. We had so much fun together, did so much laughing and goofing around. When they were both suddenly gone to college, I realized what great companions they were for me and how very much I'd miss their presence in my daily life.

    You'll never regret doing this, even if it can feel like you're drowning in it day to day. Trust me on this--it's a good, good choice and these are precious times for you to treasure.